Whatever stress and pressure youre feeling, its important to get it out. For many women, it helps to talk to a friend or partner. Others, however, feel they benefit more from taking that mental clutter and putting it down on paper. For one, theres zero risk of judgmentplus you sidestep a common danger: talking your problems in circles. (Thats no better than fixating on them yourself.) This simple 5-minute mind-dump routine can clear a toxic stress block-up, and it will also help you overcome negative thinking. Just create a document on your computer and:
Minute 1: Dump Spill the contents of your brain, no holds barred. Youre basically focusing on that background chitchat thats always there, and then typing it outstream-of-consciousness style:
- I cant believe I didnt call the plumber. Im such an idiot!
- I hate when I miss the gym in the morning. I feel so blah. I really wish I went.
- My boss keeps bragging about his expensive vacation and Im going nuts!
- Why hasnt Karen replied to my email from yesterday? Is she mad at me?
Minute 2: Evaluate Read what you wrote, and immediately wipe out any worries or thoughts that arent in your control. Youd be surprisedthe mere act of hitting delete helps you let these energy-zappers go.
Minutes 3-4: Reframe Now, push yourself to change the conversation. Take the stuff thats bugging you, and recast it in a hopeful manner:
- Ill write a note to call the plumber first thing tomorrow morning.
- I didnt make it to the gym, but I can still walk for 10 minutes after dinner.
- My friend might just be busy! I should resend againor let it go.
Minute 5: Breathe Check your posture, then close your eyes and breathe slowly and deeply. Then, get on with your daycalmer and more relaxed!